The New Year is all about new beginnings and a fresh start. It often gives us the inspiration we need to create change in our lives for the better. If you are newly engaged, this is doubly true for you as you are planning for the day that will kick off the next big chapter in your life! Regardless of whether you are getting married or not, New Year’s resolutions are always harder to keep than they are to make. No matter how hard we try, time and time again we often find ourselves falling into the same trap – make a resolution and with the best of intentions, vow to keep it, but somewhere around February or March (or maybe April if you are truly committed) we often stop and say to ourselves “well, that was nice while it lasted!”
If you are in the midst of planning your wedding, we know better than anyone else that you already have a lot on your plate, but we hope that this year we can inspire you to make at least one resolution to benefit not only yourself, but your partner too. Here are three resolutions that we think are actually worth sticking to…
MAKE TIME FOR “NO PLANNING” TIME
Free time? What is free time you ask? If you are recently engaged, “free time” may seem like a distant memory to you. What downtime you had in the first place is now most likely spent scouring Pinterest, attending wedding-related meetings, and making sure every last detail is just right. No matter how busy your life seems right now, we think that it is important for you to carve out some time away from wedding planning.
Too much time spent agonizing over your guest list or which shade of pink is better for your escort cards can make you begin to question why you are even doing this all in the first place! Taking a timeout from planning to spend some quality time with your fiancé(e) (no, sitting next to him or her on the sofa with a glass of wine in hand, while on Pinterest does not count!) is a necessary break to take because your wedding will be here before you know it!
ASK FOR HELP WHEN YOU NEED IT
This is a toughie. Most of us resent the idea of asking others for help and the thought of relinquishing control may be almost painful for some – especially when it comes to your wedding. Regardless of the size and scope of your wedding, planning one is no small feat. There are so many decisions to be made, so many little details to sort out, it can at times feel overwhelming. So overwhelming that it can turn the best of us into, we really hate to say it, but a “bridezilla” (or “groomzilla!”) and when these signs and symptoms start to show, you know that it is time to get some help!
Whether this be help from your family, from your wedding party, or from an industry professional, it is important to know that you are not in this alone and the process can actually be a lot of fun (at least we think so)! Asking for help when you need it and delegating certain tasks to willing assistants can not only take some weight off your shoulders, but it can also remind you that this time in your life is not meant to be a burdensome one, but one filled with lots of love and positivity!
STAY POSITIVE – NO MATTER WHAT!
Speaking of positivity – being positive is something that you need to vow to yourself to stay no matter what goes wrong during the planning process and even on your wedding day! This may be the most important resolution that you can make for yourself this year because unfortunately, things won’t always go according to plan and things will go wrong.
No matter the help that you have on your side, there are certain things that can simply not be prevented through careful planning and without a positive frame of mind, even the smallest hiccups can feel like insurmountable disasters. It is important to keep things in perspective and not lose sight of what is truly important – you are marrying the love of your life after all!
Stacey & Erin
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